Saturday, January 1, 2011

Why people opt out of facebook?

things people say can be taken completely out of context as there isn't any body language to read and some people are really sensitive or take things the wrong way, there just aren't enough emoticons

if you put something in your status that can get a rise out of people don't get pissed when they comment

some people share their souls, somethings are meant to be kept to yourself, some use it to be validated but what people are validating can be a lie and feeds the problem without even knowing it

somethings are supposed to be shared with loved ones and close friends where a conversation can be carried on, congrats can be given and making it special for those around you, when posting I always thought is this something I should tell people about in person? For instance I found myself pregnant and decided before I started posting things like i am tired, my back hurts, etc all those things that people can put two and two together, I would notify good friends and family first, to give them a heads up and to make them part of a special time in my life.

some post inappropriate photos, ie. partially naked photos, and underage drinking pictures, why oh why do people do this?

the whole getting unfriended business is a load of crap too, it is like putting an end to a relationship in public without having to give an explanation to the person you are unfriending, it is very passive aggressive and hurtful

using facebook to make remarks that are implied to some but vague to others is negative and not so nice, if you have a problem with someone maybe you should talk to them about it instead of facebooking it

It spins out of control like a rumor mill.

these are some of the things I have experienced and has ruined my experience with facebook, what is so unfortunate is that I couldn't just unfriend those people and block them as I see them frequently or am related to them and I didn't want to not be friends with them in real person, I just didn't want to be a part of the facebook drama that has popped up from time to time.

then there is the whole privacy issues, the stalking, the bullying, the public posting of others private life. Why any parent would ever let any child under the age of 16 join facebook is beyond me. I think parents and teachers need to start teaching the kids discretion and respect while using this social network.

Here are a few links that pretty much sum it up...

10 reason why you should destroy your facebook account

Funny but true video about relationships

Facebook bullying

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